Sporadic writer

I started writing on this blog a year and half back on jan 26 2011 i.e our 62nd republic day. I did so for I was overwhelmed with some kind of emotions that day which I felt like sharing with people. I always had such strong feelings or for that matter opinions in many aspects, though not of varied genres during my schooling and I used to express myself through some essays or little poems or something like that. I always made a point to write a journal everyday ( though skipped sometimes) back then. When I go through my old diary or old articles written by me, sometimes I kinda get this uncanny feeling that Oh! Have I thought like that or was I so full of positivity? May be this happens to many but I can't help wondering about how people transform with the passage of time. The less immature I was, the more positivity and aspirations I was preoccupied with, always dreaming to be Someone in future.I regret to realise that I hardly write any poems or articles these days. This fact raises a silly doubt in my mind. Have I stopped feeling for things and reacting to the situations? Funny! but how can that be? No one stops feeling ever. In fact, the more we face in life, the more we feel about different things, lots of prejudices, lots of opinions and lots of thoughts see their way through our heads. Why then did I stop expressing my views in written form? With some speculation and deliberation I found out some possible reasons. May be I am getting carried away by the daily chores and chaos that I just don't linger to give a thought to what I feel about specific things and make sure to emphasize them.May be, my mind is cluttered with a lot of unnecessary stuff that obscures my instincts of motivation and inspiration in life.May be I have grown up to realise that too much of optimism doesn't make much sense, for the world is the way it is. No matter whatever the reason is I loved the way I was earlier for I feel that the distinct thoughts and principles of mine define what I am. I need to make sure of the way I feel about things and bring out the motivation in me not only to let others know me but to reassure myself about the path I choose and the thoughts I frame which of course guide my actions. My introspection substantiates that it is we who could direct the way we live and everywhere we have a choice to make our life either passive or ebullient. Its lies within us, the will to let go astray all the passivity that impedes us to be dynamic. Hence, folks I choose to start afresh and do what I love to do and be what I want to be and leave the regrets of not having done what I wish to or long to do. I may sound boring all through yet I intend to get rid of my boredom through this post. Thank you guys if you were able to put up with me till the end of this post. Here, I couldn't stop mentioning one line which have read in a blog "Be the purple cow" WHY BE GOOD WHEN YOU CAN BE AWESOME." This somehow motivated me to stimulate my attitude.

COMMUNICATION GAP

                                           

COMMUNICATION GAP

            Communication gap ,the thing which makes a lot of difference in every interaction  we are involved in. This gap  if not bridged soon leads  to undesired consequences in a person's life ,indeed it may affect more than one person. When does this arise? Why does this arise? These queries will be clarified if we give a slight thought to it. As this is more or less related and infers to relationships people involve in, a parent and child kinship seems a good instance to be started with. 

             In the present scenario where there is a vigorous competition in the market for educational and job opportunities it is quite common that children spend most of their educational years at a place away from their homes. Naturally ,most of the parents have some apprehensions about their kids' life over there. They are haunted with a feeling of insecurity that their son or daughter may fall into wrong tracks and  deceive them. Especially in the case of girls from orthodox kind of  families parents do worry a little more for they think that girls are vulnerable to many adverse situations in this vicious society. Their apprehensions may be partially true but eventually some of the parents take fault decisions. They impose restrictions on them instead of letting them know their real intentions. This in fact reduces the emotional closeness and intimacy of the children with their parents that hinders them from sharing some of their  ideas,experiences and doubts. The painful feeling that their parents don't trust them truly hurts their tender hearts. Slowly,the so called communication gap comes into picture. Ultimately, they fail to share the most important aspects of their life may it be their love, or their worries with their class mates or their academic issues.  Both of them are bound to repent for it because of the abdicable followings. To avoid all such mishaps there should be a healthy interaction between the parents and children. Parents should instead assure their children that they are by their side come what may. They should provide a friendly atmosphere for them to present their inner thoughts. This actually makes them more comfortable and will not let any idea of betraying their parents to creep in their minds. Moreover, parents should come out of the conservative   webs that they have built around them and look into the cosmopolitan world with a comprehensive vision for the betterment of their children.

         Moving on to a wife and husband relationship , it is the most sensitive of all ,  in either of the cases of love marriage or arranged marriage. Although there  is enough love between two people it may not assure a dispute free life. They may be able to make their life comfortable with all materialistic luxuries but sometimes they fail to notice and offer the expected concern to their mates. Ego, jealousy and likewise things may peep through their lives. Many things remain unsaid between the two people and pile up as the junk in a store room. By the time it is realized that it actually needs some cleaning the labour is too much I.e;they are separated to a quite greater distances in the long run the very root cause being the communication gap. To err is human and to rectify the error is humanity. A small note of apology,in other words a five letter sorry will keep up a relation at its good while ego destroys everything. This is  applicable between friends as well.

               On a concluding note, it is evident that any unsolved and unsaid issues between people damage the sensitive bonds between them and invite uncalled problems to the picture. So, never make your life and others' life too to be messed up with problems on account of a negligence in clearing up petty yet bothering things. Expressing things casts away the load of emotional torture and keeps retains your loved ones always lovable.